“How and when to text a woman you’ve just met?”
It seems everywhere I go men are asking this question. Alternative versions include “how do I text a woman to keep her interested?” And “When and what do I text her?”
A gazillion blog posts exist about these questions and just as many podcast episodes. I’ve even come across creepy, weird-looking dudes presenting themselves as dating coaches offering ‘how to text women’ as opt-ins.
Some of the advice is very good…some of it is down right terrible!
What you are about to read is my take on how and when to text a woman you’ve just met. It is the best advice you are going to get on the topic so I encourage you to bookmark this post.
How And When To Text A Woman You’ve Just Met
Texting women is one of the easiest and most enjoyable things you can do during the courting process. Problem is most guys make a mess of it for a number of reasons:
- They’re worried they’re going to say the wrong thing so they end up saying the wrong thing or don’t send the text at all.
- They try to be too funny, witty or charming
- They text constantly and piss the girl off or end up having a text relationship with her and nothing else
- Follow the ‘three-day’ rule
- Get funky or overly sexual too soon
You’ve approached a girl, hit it off and she’s given you her number and asked for yours.
Read that last sentence again.
Notice how I emphasized she’s given you her number and asked for yours, not you got her number. This is important because it means (a) she’s fuck yes into you and (b) she’s going to text you first. That’s right, sunny Jim. She’s going to text you first. This is why you always choose a woman who chooses you as David Deida says.
When she texts you she’s going to write something dumb like “Hey, what’s up?” or have a flashback about something you said or did when you met. All you need to do is reply with “Hey, it’s nice to hear from you. I’m going to X at 8pm this Thursday. If you’re free I’d love it if you could join me.”
This is how and when you text a woman you’ve just met.
After the date she’ll text you first again with something like, “I had so much fun the other night…we should do it again soon.” Again all you need to do is take the lead and set a definite date. “Hey, the other night was great! Keep Sunday afternoon free…I’ve got a surprise for you.”
She’ll reply with “Oh, I love surprises blah, blah, blah.”
This is how easy it is to text a woman you’ve just met. When she’s fuck yes into you she will go out of her way to make things happen…and make things easy for you.
Don’t complicate things and for fuck sake forget about the three day rule, sending funny cat pictures, the best time to text, and all that other nonsense. Let her do all the hard work. She wants to chase you, so let her.
Just sit back, relax, use the phone to set definite dates only, and most importantly, enjoy the process.
As always, thanks for reading.