A ‘Hater’ Is Nothing New – Coffee Time With Juan Balbuena

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I had a vision of building a close community of like-minded individuals who are eager to work towards becoming the best version of themselves, not only that but also a vision of a platform where I’d be able to interact with members and give them my two cents in a more direct and exclusive way – Juan Balbuena

 

“A hater is nothing new.”

Let’s think about that phrase for a moment.

What did you get from it?

For me, it’s James Bond like in that it exudes extraordinary confidence, self-reliance and the belief that no matter what people say about him Juan  Balbuena knows his value and worth.

He knows he is good enough and any negative comment someone throws at him is ‘water off a duck’s back.’

So how does one get this level of confidence and self-reliance?

Stepping out of your comfort zone repeatedly and working every day on being your best version.

Juan Balbuena has dedicated the best part of his life to doing just that.

And now he’s obsessed helping and inspiring others do likewise.

 

In 2015 he created the very popular and ever-growing Facebook group Daily Achievers.

It’s a group “for those on the path of pursuing their life passion, taking action, overcoming limiting beliefs, implementing new ideas, and mastering different areas of their lives”

Juan added me to the group because he liked how I was inspiring people to overcome fear and nervousness and gain lasting confidence through  videos of me doing comfort zone challenges.

I’m glad he did.

Juan inspires me every day through his message “Things don’t happen to you, they happen for you.”

 

 

Thanks for taking part in this Interview Juan.  For those who don’t know who is Juan Balbuena?

Thanks for having me Michael.

I feel tempted to give you the ordinary “I’m just a normal guy” answer, so I’m just going to subtly throw it in here.

I do consider myself a normal guy whose early challenges, fears and frustrations motivated him to find mentors and develop a perhaps abnormal obsession and hunger to learn and figure out the qualities, mindsets, habits and techniques that make people happy and successful emotionally, financially, physically, socially, romantically, etc.

At the beginning it started as a personal journey for myself to master the necessary skills that would allow me to achieve the prosperous life I always envisioned, but as my life began to change for the better, it slowly started to become more and more about helping others, sharing what I had learned and what was working for me.

 

Do you have a morning routine? If so what does it look like and why do you think it’s important to have one?

I do, and it’s great that you ask because I believe it’s not talked about much.

We all tend to talk about habits in general but rarely ever about routines during specific times of the day.

Long ago I trained myself that when I wake up, to always focus first on all the good stuff I have going on for myself, no matter how little they are and no matter how tough times are.

In the early stages of my life I had been guilty of letting my mind first think of the negative, whether it was that I was waking up too early, thinking of all the things I had to do, or worrying about that important task I had to take care of that specific day, and that’s a horrible habit to have which often dictates the mood of the rest of your day.

Another habit that I learned from one of my mentors Eben Pagan is to everyday arrange your to-do-list from the most important/difficult task first to the least important task last.  Many of us are not aware of this but our human body has the most physical and mental willpower at the beginning of the day, so we want to make sure we tap into that with the most essentials tasks first.

 

What tools do you find indispensable for accomplishing your daily tasks?

Currently I have to say it’s my mind, my body, my computer, internet, my recording camera and my mobile phone.

 

What motivated you to start the Facebook group Daily Achievers?

I had a vision of building a close community of like-minded individuals who are eager to work towards becoming the best version of themselves. Also a vision of a platform where I’d be able to interact with members and give them my two cents in a more direct and exclusive way;  the Facebook group was a great option for that.

 

What keeps you going in hard times?

What keeps me going? Hmm, the fear of one day looking back at my life and knowing that I let myself down.

The fear that I let my wife and my future family down.

Regretting not giving it my all, knowing that I could have but I didn’t.

Knowing that I had one life one shot and I wasted it.

Knowing that I’ll never get back those days, but specially knowing that the reasons why I didn’t accomplish my dreams were lack of courage and having let my fears dictate the direction of my life.

I imagine it’s a very miserable feeling that I wish to never experience.

 

What’s the best advice you ever received?

I have received lots of good advice but one that stands out and I’m constantly aware of is that “things don’t happen to you, they happen for you ” .

When I heard this, it was a little hard to wrap my head around it but once I digested it, it became one of the most powerful advice I had ever heard.

This mindset of accepting anything and everything that happens to you and take it as an opportunity so you can either learn, grow, better yourself, appreciate things more, be more cautious in the future, make better decision, etc, has helped me strengthen more and more.

Ditto the habit of embracing and taking responsibility for everything that happens in my life, good or bad.

 

Who are your biggest influences? Who do you admire most? Who or what inspired you to do what you’re doing now?

Who I admire the most is my dad for having a huge heart, he’s the kind of person that would do almost anything in his power to help you and make you feel comfortable.

Tyler from Real Social Dynamics is another person who has influenced my journey.  Aside from being a dating coach, his philosophy on life, personal development and the 100% authenticity he displays all the time makes me resonate with him a lot.

Gary Vaynerchuck is another one, his humbleness and being a real example of work ethic and hustle to reach success inspires me.

Rafael Eliassen as well is a person that played a big role.

He is a member of an online mastermind that I’m part of.

I watched his transformation from being a below average guy but with a big vision,.

He mopped floors for a living and at the same time worked hard every single day towards his goals.

Now he is an inspiring life-coach and running a very successful online business.

 

What is still your biggest challenge?

Spending more time with my family.

Even though I’m working towards creating more freedom so I can spend more time with them, I tend to get caught up in the hustle, and I currently don’t get to spend as much time as I would like to with my parents and relatives.

 

What are your favorite books, blogs or videos on becoming your best version?

My top favorite books are “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway,” “The Magic of Thinking Big,” “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” “Awaken The Giant Within” “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying,” “Think and Grow Rich,” “The Way of The Superior Man”.

I don’t tend to visit blogs and when it comes to watching videos, I choose to watch any content coming from Les Brown, Tony Robbins or Eric Thomas.  I find these the most motivating.

 

Haters are going to hate. What’s your best advice for handling negative people?

My best advice is to just keep doing what you’re doing.

My philosophy of a ‘hater’ is nothing new.

In fact you hear it and see it everywhere.

It’s true,though, that the people who are hating and speaking negatively are just projecting how they feel about themselves.

I know this for a fact from experience!

I have been guilty of hating a few times way before I became addicted with self-development.

I can tell you that the times that I would criticize someone else who was trying to get ahead or do something differently, were the times that I was feeling the worst about my life and about what I had going on for myself.

So I have nothing but compassion for people who spend their time “hating”.

 

What surprising lessons have you learned along your journey?

I must say that I still get surprised every time my clients and myself realize how much they have evolved.  All those moments confirm that we are not really what we thought we were, that we’re continually changing for the better or for the worse, that we’re constantly being molded by our environment and the influences we allow to enter our minds.  And anybody that understands this concept is able to evolve into anything they want.

 

What do you find are biggest stumbling blocks and what are the best ways you’ve found to overcome them?

The two most common stumbling blocks I’ve seen in people I’ve helped are definitely ‘fear of executing’ and ‘quitting too soon when they try something new.

It’s very common to say to yourself that you’ll do it whenever the fear decreases or goes away, but this erroneous way of thinking will lead you to paralysis.

Fear is only overcome by taking action, there is no way around it.

And as for ‘quitting too soon’ – when you first try something for the first time the best thing to do is hope for the best but prepare for the worst, have a positive attitude towards it, and understand that it will most likely take time and a lot of repetition to get good at it.

An understanding of the law of repetition is key.

Likewise remembering that every master was once a disaster prevents you from getting discouraged when you suck at something in the initial stages.

 

What’s your legacy? How do you want to be remembered?

How do I want to be remembered when I’m gone?

I’ve still not completely figured out exactly what I want my legacy to be,  but I know it’s important and it’s something that I’m going to continue to work on and figure out.

For now, I want to keep helping as many people as possible overcome their fears, eliminate their limiting beliefs, become the best version of themselves, get control back of their lives and achieve their goals.

 

Finis

 

What an incredibly inspiring story and how cool is Juan  – he really knows his stuff.

I learned a lot from this interview, for example, I’m familiar with the works of Tyler Durden from RSD and Gary Vaynerchuck, but I had no idea about Eban Pagan and Rafael Eliassen and their gift.

And how about Juan’s morning routine and mindset towards ‘haters’ – I think we can all take something from that and apply it to our lives.

 

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What did you learn from this interview or found useful?

Do you have a morning routine? Why do you think it’s important and what does it look like?

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