James Bond is the epitome of smooth.
We’ve all heard the saying: ‘women want him and men want to be him.’
Bond lives an extraordinary life.
And he does it on his terms.
He has the life he deserves – the best women, the best job (come on, who wouldn’t want a career as an international man of mystery jet setting the globe chasing after bad guys?) the best cars, the best clothes, the best of everything.
Below are 007 ways you can be as smooth as James Bond and live the life you deserve as well.
Dress For Success – You don’t need to spend big dollars on suits and designer fashion to look smooth. The key is wearing clothes that fit and match. I see a lot of overweight guys wearing shirts ten times too big for them, like this chump
The general consensus is these guys wear over-sized clothing thinking it makes them look smaller.
Thing is, it makes them look dumb.
Women want men who are confident and secure with themselves, regardless of their shape and size, not a circus side-show.
Contrary to popular belief It’s not so much the clothes women like; its how the clothes match and fit.
So if the example above is you work on your confidence and self-esteem and start wearing clothes that match and fit.
Here’s a good example of Mr. Bond himself modelling clothes that both match and fit.
Of course every man should have at least one quality, tailor-made suit in his wardrobe.
Important: Do not buy your suit off the rack!!!! Watch this video to find out why.
Grooming/Hygiene – drop 50 bucks and get a proper hair cut. By proper I mean a style that suits your face shape.
Buy tweezers and pluck your eyebrows.
Go and buy yourself a nasal hair trimmer and a quality shaver.
Treat yourself to a traditional wet shave from your local barber’s once in a while for that James Bond smoothness.
Non – negotiable: Floss and brush your teeth twice a day – ditto bathing. It doesn’t matter how smooth, confident or good looking you are, if you’re high on the nose no high quality woman will come near you. Wear a quality deoderant/aftershave/ eau de toilette at all times. If you’re a heavy sweater use an anti- bacterial roll on or spray.
Speaking of bathing turn your nice,warm, hot showers into freezing cold ones. In Fleming’s books, James Bond has cold showers or what he calls “Scottish Showers.” Why? Having cold showers strengthens will power, builds emotional resilience, reduces stress and increases testosterone, among other things.
Body Language – I speak about this at length in the six part series How To Communicate Effectively With Women… but it’s worth mentioning again here.
Bond is the ultimate alpha male. He is confident and believes in himself. He knows he is the best and he communicates this through his body language. He doesn’t apologize for being a man and openly conveys his masculinity and sexual desire for the women he admires.
The very fact you are here on this planet makes you awesome and capable of great things.
If you don’t know this already invest in yourself until you do.
Start with studying confident body language techniques and watch this Ted Talk on power poses
Women, especially high quality women, love men with confident body language who believe in themselves and freely express their masculinity and sexuality without apology – it makes you ten times more attractive than the next guy.
Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone – Whether it’s writing poetry, building miniature air-craft, or running a marathon we all have something we’re passionate about or interested in. I have many interests but none which challenged me, so I enrolled in Toastmasters – a public speaking group. The challenge of giving prepared and impromptu speeches in front of large groups of people twice a month has been richly rewarding in more ways than one – in addition to learning a new skill and overcoming my fear of public speaking I have developed and fine tuned my leadership ability and made some genuine connections with like-minded people.
As many of you know from reading this blog I regularly do Comfort Zone Crusher Challenges. Doing these challenges transformed my life.
Find or resuscitate a hobby where you are out of your comfort zone and watch yourself grow as a person. Better yet, start your own group.
Meetup.com is a great place to start.
Improve Your Speaking And Writing – Becoming as smooth as James Bond means your writing and speaking is top-notch. Bond speaks clearly, slowly, articulately and with authority. And he speaks from the diaphragm.
Learn how to speak louder and deeper without moving higher in pitch and how to speak properly as a staple of your self growth and becoming your best version. These two videos will help get you started:
My mother always told me “the pen is mightier than the sword.” As a child I didn’t have a clue what she was talking about but as I grew up it made perfect sense. Having well developed writing skills means you communicate clearly, succinctly, and persuasively. It also elevates your credibility. You increase your chances of getting a promotion or landing that well paid senior position and even that high value women you’ve had your eye on. Why? Because you’re a man of high status, refinement and class who is invested in himself.
Read Everyday – Whether it’s a blog post (preferably this one!) a novel, biography or the back of a cereal box this is something you must do.
Reading teaches us, inspires us, makes us better human beings.
The man who doesn’t read good books doesn’t have any advantage over the fellow who can’t read a line – Mark Twain
Besides, 007 himself is well read… and in more languages than one.
Which leads me to the final point.
Learn Something New – A language, a skill, a hobby, a sport…you get the picture.
Many benefits come from learning something new including:
Sense of accomplishment and pride in oneself
Build confidence, increase your self esteem and self-worth
Make new connections with like-minded people
Discover a hidden talent
Most importantly you’re investing in yourself and becoming your best version.
And we all know when you become your best version you start living the life you deserve.
Bonus Tip– Bond stays in peak physical condition, despite his excess Vodka Martini consumption
If you’re overweight or out of shape join a gym and start eating healthy.
High quality women find the commitment, dedication, sacrifice and hard work you put in to get ripped and toned sexy as hell- even sexier than your ripped, toned body.
Extra Bonus Tip – Bond is a superior man. Superior men are nurturing, nourishing, supportive and find the good in everyone.
A superior man never belittles, gossips or speaks negatively about anyone.
A superior man gives value without expecting anything in return.
As always thanks for reading.
Did You Know?
I wasn’t always good with women and I certainly didn’t understand them. Still don’t, but I’m a hell of lot better than I was.
Click on the link below to listen to my interview on Shrink For The Shy Guy and learn how I went from being shy and limited with women to having my choice with them and having them approaching me!