I came on too strong and blew it with absolutely gorgeous British girl who approached me. It happened at a club tourisits frequent in St.Kilda, Melbourne.
I’ll go into all the gory details in a minute, but before that I want to tell you about my experience with a girl at least 20 years younger than me.
We met when I helped her get served quicker at the bar. She thanked me and I told her with a James Bond grin that she could buy me a drink later to show her appreciaton. Sure enough, she did.
I was being playful and sexual with her afterwards and she was lapping it up.
When she told me she was a music teacher I whispered in her ear: “There’s no way I could ever be a student of yours.”
When she asked why I replied: “Because I wouldn’t be able to concentrate.”
Subtle but very effective.
Naturally, she threw a few congruence tests at me to see if I was the real deal by saying I looked like Alec Baldwin, and asking me where I went whenever I left the table.
My response to both was “Hell, yeah. Alec Baldwin is the man! He gets all the pussy!” And “I had to make a quick call to my supplier…demand is heating up and supply is low but I took care of it…you know how it is.”
When she said she didn’t I replied with a cocky grin: “Oh, really…you could’ve fooled me.”
I passed her testing by remaining centered, being playful and not letting her throw me of course. In many ways I was being the ‘bad boy’ women crave.
We moved on to the dance floor with a small group and I soon found out that when she’d said she couldn’t dance she’d meant it.
Her dancing was that bad it was scaring the crap out of me!
I looked for a way out and spotted a two seated couch no-one was sitting on so I casually slid away and sat down.
Moments before doing so, however, I noticed the gorgeous blonde smiling at me.
Hint: I know you know this but it’s worth repeating -when a girl smiles at you and maintains eye contact she wants you to approach her…so do it.
I didn’t appraoch her because I was planning on being with the horrible dancer. I just sat down on the couch next to her and intentionally took up too much space, like a high value man.
Women are naturally drawn to this type of body language, especially high quality women.
Sweat was dripping off my forehead and I was short of breath from dancing. I just wanted to relax for a bit.
Next thing I know the gorgeous blonde starts asking me run-of -the-mill questions like “what’s your name,” and “what do you do?” and “is this your first time to this meetup group?” and so on.
This is how women try to hit on guys. But again, you already knew that, right?
I knew what she was doing but didn’t pay any attention to it because like I said I planned on being with the horrible dancer.
It is only when the horrible dancer went to the bar to buy me another drink that I gave the gorgeous blonde, who I will call ‘N’ any attention.
By attention I don’t mean I started being the ‘nice guy‘, sitting up straight and seeking her approval.
I was the exact opposite. I was play fighting with her, teasing her, telling her she was a page 3 girl in the making, giving her authentic compliments, being charming, witty and charismatic.
I was the ‘bad boy’ and didn’t let her beauty turn me into a wuss.
It continued this way for a while then she asked if I wanted to join her outside for a smoke.
I accepted her invitation and she took my hand and held it until we got outside. We bumped into the horrible dancer on the way out. I took the drink off her, said “cheers big ears,” and continued walking outside with ‘N.’ I was a complete asshole and even though it turned blondie on in interim it cost me a chance to establish a long term bond with her. My actions were not those of a masculine, mature man and it’s something I would never do now.
Blondie’s giggles and holding my hand confirmed for me that she was interested so I took out my phone, handed it to her and said “give me your number”, which she did.
I acted without hesitation.
We spoke for a bit afterwards and then I told her I was going to get going.
Before I left I leaned in and gave her two pecks on the lips.
This showed confidence and leadership and communicated “I know I’m good enough for you let me show you.”
High quality women find this very attractive in a man.
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